Posted on 04/27/2008
Most men have been told by a woman that they don't have any chemistry. This has most likely left you standing there scratching your head out of confusion. What I'm going to do is break it down for you and then show you how you can create it on demand.
What is chemistry?
For us men women speak in weird ways. They will say things like: "There is no spark." "Things should just click." "There isn't any chemistry between us."
For the most part these are just other ways of saying that she isn't attracted to you. These are arguably nicer ways of saying it. For her this means the following:
No tingly feelings in her stomach.
No intense desire to kiss you.
No intense desire to have sex with you.
No heavy breathing.
No amazing feelings when she thinks of you.
No amazing feelings when she is in your presence.
Its mostly about emotions and feelings for her. Never mind all the talk about compatibility and being connected in every way possible. All of that still comes down to those two things. People live life emotionally and they care about how they feel at any given moment. This is why people like to TV so much. TV stirs up peoples emotions. It makes people feel things.
On a psychological level there is more to it then that. For the sake of keeping things simple chemistry is about making a woman feel intense emotions and feelings.
How to make a woman feel intense emotions and feelings
Now we will look at some of the basic things you can do to help trigger chemistry. None of this stuff will work 100% of the time. However, it will increase your ability to create chemistry between you and a woman.
Senses
What does she see? What does she smell? What does your touch feel like to her? What does she hear in your voice?
Make the most of what you got. Dress well, make sure you are clean, use confident body language, and have a soothing tone of voice.
Energy
Women need to feel some tension, momentum, and excitement. You can let this build and grow over several dates. Try flirting with her and give her exciting experiences when you are with her.
Trust & Rapport
The easiest way to let a woman know that you like her for more then just sex is to take interest in her. Ask her questions about herself. At the same you should give out bits and pieces of information about yourself along the way. That last thing can help build trust. She needs to feel like she knows you. Cuddling can also help build that connection.
Sexual Tension
As you go along there needs to be a build up of arousal. You can do this through more intimate touching, dirty talk, kissing, and spending time alone in the right locations.
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